{"id":1649,"date":"2008-04-15T09:34:34","date_gmt":"2008-04-15T14:34:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blogs.discovermagazine.com\/cosmicvariance\/2008\/04\/15\/on-choosing-a-graduate-school-a-dialogue\/"},"modified":"2008-04-15T09:34:34","modified_gmt":"2008-04-15T14:34:34","slug":"on-choosing-a-graduate-school-a-dialogue","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/preposterousuniverse.com\/blog\/2008\/04\/15\/on-choosing-a-graduate-school-a-dialogue\/","title":{"rendered":"On Choosing a Graduate School:  A Dialogue"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>A:  Hey, what&#8217;s up?  You&#8217;re looking a little anxious these days.<\/p>\n<p>B:  I know.  We&#8217;re getting close to the romance deadline.<\/p>\n<p>A:  The romance deadline?<\/p>\n<p>B:  Yeah, in a couple of days I have to decide who I&#8217;ll be going out with for the next five years or so.<\/p>\n<p>A:  Oh, right, I forgot.  Have you decided between boyfriend and girlfriend?<\/p>\n<p>B:  I&#8217;ve thought about it a lot, and I definitely want a girlfriend.<\/p>\n<p>A:  That&#8217;s cool.  But don&#8217;t you worry that the standards are higher if you say you want a girlfriend?  I&#8217;ve heard that boyfriends are much easier.<\/p>\n<p>B:  I heard that, too.  But girls are what I&#8217;m really passionate about.<\/p>\n<p>A:  Couldn&#8217;t you just get a boyfriend first, and then switch if you don&#8217;t like it?<\/p>\n<p>B:  Some people try that, but it can be awkward.  Better to just be honest about your intentions from the start.<\/p>\n<p>A:  Fair enough.  So did you get any acceptances?<\/p>\n<p>B:  Yeah, two different women have agreed to date me.  Cindy and Alyssa.  But I have to choose one.<\/p>\n<p>A:  Hey, that&#8217;s great that you go two offers.  Have you made a choice yet?<\/p>\n<p>B:  Well, I had coffee with Alyssa, and we really hit it off &#8212; she&#8217;s beautiful, and charming, and laughed at my jokes.  I definitely think we would get along well over the next few years.  I met Cindy, too; she&#8217;s a knockout, and clearly very talented, but there wasn&#8217;t as much of a spark there.<\/p>\n<p>A:  That can happen.  So are you going to choose Alyssa?<\/p>\n<p>B:  I&#8217;m tempted, but the thing is &#8212; Cindy&#8217;s <a href=\"http:\/\/grad-schools.usnews.rankingsandreviews.com\/grad\/phy\/search\"><em>US News<\/em> ranking<\/a> is much higher.<\/p>\n<p>A:  Her what?<\/p>\n<p>B:  Every year, <em>US News<\/em> puts out rankings of boyfriends and girlfriends.  Now, Alyssa is a solid top-20 girlfriend, but Cindy is top five!  I&#8217;m really worried I&#8217;d be making a mistake by passing up the opportunity to go out with Cindy.  Everyone has heard of her.<\/p>\n<p>A:  That sounds a little weird to me.  How do they come up with these rankings?<\/p>\n<p>B:  Nobody knows, really.  But everyone takes them very seriously.  Still, I keep hoping that the <a href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/United_States_National_Research_Council_Rankings\">NRC<\/a> will update their boyfriend\/girlfriend rankings soon.  Those are supposed to be much more scientific.<\/p>\n<p>A:  NRC?<\/p>\n<p>B:  The National Romance Council.<\/p>\n<p>A:  But look, you seem to have really hit it off with Alyssa.  Who cares that <em>US News<\/em> ranks Cindy higher?  The concept of a &#8220;boyfriend\/girlfriend ranking&#8221; just doesn&#8217;t make sense &#8212; what matters is how well you personally get along with them, not some pseudo-objective measure of excellence.<\/p>\n<p>B:  It&#8217;s easy to say that, but this is a big decision.  I&#8217;m really worried that, ten years from now when I&#8217;m ready to get married, my prospective spouse is not going to be nearly as impressed that I went out with Alyssa than if I had gone out with Cindy.<\/p>\n<p>A:  Come on, it&#8217;s five years of your life that we&#8217;re talking about here.  Your chances of eventually being happily married would seem to be a lot better if you choose someone you&#8217;re likely to be happy with right now.<\/p>\n<p>B:  You&#8217;re right, I know.  Well, I hope Cindy won&#8217;t be disappointed.  I don&#8217;t think she&#8217;s used to being turned down.<\/p>\n<p>A:  Don&#8217;t worry.  I&#8217;m pretty sure she&#8217;ll get over it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A: Hey, what&#8217;s up? You&#8217;re looking a little anxious these days. B: I know. We&#8217;re getting close to the romance deadline. A: The romance deadline? 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